Well, ladies
Nobody talks about this so I am going to. You stopped feeling sexy.
Not ugly. Not even unattractive. Just disconnected from the idea that your body is something worth noticing. Even to yourself.
I was twenty minutes late to meet Clare on Wednesday (shocking, I know). She was standing outside the restaurant in this dark green coat looking like she runs a country.
Told her that. She said, "I got dressed in four minutes." 😂 That is so Clare. But she still sees herself when she catches a reflection. She is still in there.
Sonia texted me Friday asking if a plum dress she bought three years ago still works on her.
Yes. Obviously yes. But the fact that she had to ask made me want to drive to her house and shake her. She is gorgeous in that dress. She is gorgeous out of it.
Most women I train are somewhere near that. They come in worried about their knees or their back or the number on the scale.
Nobody says, "I want to feel like someone worth watching across a room." But that is what they mean when they say they want to feel like themselves again.
This is going to sound strange. Your hips are involved.
The Kitchen Habit Memory Researchers Want You to Drop
If you have been dealing with embarrassing memory lapses lately, this is worth a few minutes.
Not the dramatic kind. The everyday kind: forgetting where you left your keys. And the ones that bother you more: names, faces and dates.
The usual explanation
Most of us file this under age. Helen K. from Denver did too:
“I thought memory loss was just aging. Turns out I was wrong — and so was my doctor.”
That is the part worth sitting with. If the cause is not just the calendar, then it is not something you simply have to accept.
Where researchers are looking instead
Top memory researchers from the University of New Mexico point to one everyday kitchen habit and recommend you stop it right away.
It is one small change. According to them, it can strengthen your memory, sharpen your focus, and help you feel like yourself again, starting today.
Over 47,000 people have already made this simple change.
If you want to boost your memory and feel sharp again, here is what to stop doing:
When you sit all day your pelvis loses mobility. Your hips lose rotation. Your glutes check out. (That is your chair, and your birthday.)
You shuffle. Small steps. Tight. You stop swinging when you walk. You stop moving like a body that enjoys being a body.
Every single day in the studio. Women who used to dance, used to walk into a bar like they meant it. Now they move like they are trying not to take up space.
A client of mine, 48, desk job. Came in for lower back pain. Asked her to do slow standing hip circles. Five one direction, five the other.
She could barely make a full circle. Her hips had maybe a quarter of their range left. She said, "I feel like a gate that needs oil." 🔥
Two weeks of that every morning. Then she texted me: "I walked past a window and I liked how I looked."
That is not a flexibility thing. That is a woman who started moving from her center again.
When your hips open up your walk changes, your posture shifts, and you carry yourself like you remember who you are.
Forget about whether anyone is watching. This is about feeling your hips roll and your shoulders open and knowing your body still has that in it.
Stand up. Feet hip-width apart. Hands on your waist. Slow circles with your hips, as wide as is comfortable. Five clockwise. Five the other way.
Morning, night, bathroom at work. About sixty seconds total.
You will feel ridiculous the first time. Do them anyway.
Twenty minutes late on Wednesday. Again. Always. 🙄 Clare has stopped being surprised and started being cold, which honestly is worse.
But I will regret the years I spent telling women to count reps and track steps and never once saying: you are sexy. Move like it.
You are. 😭
